Hi,
I seldom receive call from your mum. But one day, she told me a long story;
NO EMPATHY, NO FEELINGS...with You. But your mum does. There is a big difference in real feelings and emotions and the adrenalin rush of you and him...which is the only thing You "feel". Since it's apples and oranges...of course he made you mad. I thinks, You love him very much. since everyone are the same in my view.
I read in a book, Emotional Resilience, that if you are in a relationship with someone...friendship or romance, and one or the other of you feels hurt, those feelings are real and they are YOUR feelings. So they would be respected by one who is mature and cares about you. They will want to work with you to fix that hurt, and atone so the relationship remains healthy and can move forward unencombered. ...Problem is it does not work with you adn him. You both are emotional toddlers posing as adults. A toddler has not yet learned adult skills at their age. For a toddler there is hope...but there is no hope for you and him.
Dont you undertsand? Care your mum and your family!
